Hello Readers,
Linking this post to Lens-Artists “Blogger’s Choice
These photos depict the many moods of life
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This post is dedicated to my father-n-law.
He passed away last Sunday while in hospice care. Whew! One positive was that he had a “decent ending” to his life of 75 years. And by that we mean that he was able to say goodbye to people and bring closure in some ways. He showed such tenacity as his body deteriorated and as he accepted dying. I will share other details when I update my “In Memory of…” page.
As we were leaving my FIL’s apartment for the last time, I noticed that the decorated doors along his hallway offered some cheer. So I grabbed a few photos to share with Thursday Doors.
Thanks for your visit.
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There is no such thing as a happy ending in this sense, Yvette, and yet, this is probably as close as it comes. When someone has a progressive illness and there’s no turning back the clock. Sad for the family but I hope he left some good memories. R.I.P.
Wishing you a peaceful and healthy Christmas.
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Jo, thanks for the beautiful comment – 🙏😊
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So sorry for your loss, and of course that of your husband Yvette. Not everyone lives the life they’d wish for, and a progressive disease must be so difficult to live with, and for family to deal with. Hopefully he died in peace having said his goodbyes to those he loved. Wishing you and your family a holiday filled with love and peace.
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Many thanks Tina – and he really did have some closure and faced hospice with such strength.
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I am sorry for your loss, Yvette.
Sending warm thoughts to you and your family.
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Thanks so much 🤍💛
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Sometimes death is a relief but it always closes a door. I’m sorry that door has closed for you and your husband. Hopefully the new year will bring you and your family much joy!
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Hi JT – love your use of closed door and it does remind us that the door closes on everyone – we all have a beginning me an end. We are also grateful this was not on Christmas Day –
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I really like the door. Yvette. I remember when my mother was living in an apartment building in Iowa. All the residents decorated their entrance area. Thank you so much for jogging my memory.
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Dan, glad to trigger a memory and I only shared the holiday doors – but there were some fun door decors – one resident had a bunch of anchors and it whispered of his nautical past.
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I’m glad your father-in-law is no longer in pain. I’m sorry for your loss.
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Thanks so much 💚
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I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Yvette, but I’m sure he was well cared for and is now in a good place 🙏
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Thanks Clive – he was in good hands – 🤍😊
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Sad thing it’s death, but when suffering its also liberation, blessings.
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Thank you so much and well said 🤍🙏
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I’m so sorry to hear about your FIL’s passing. The beauty in this post is a fitting tribute to him. Take care.
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Thanks Anne – I was tying to be honest but also honoring him as our parent and as a person!
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what a beautiful tribute to your FIL He had a wonderful life and contributed so much. your flowers were a beautiful touch. I’m sorry it was such a hard ending but a relief. 💖
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Thanks Cindy – and the term “wonderful life” would not really fit my FIL – but he does have a highlight to his journey – and that is that he kept pushing on and stayed the course – he wrestled with depression (and the ongoing frustration that comes with NPD, which involves coping with narcissistic injuries and perceived threats)
and so when we say decent ending – that was also in our mind – grateful it was not an ending through his own hand (if that makes sense) and he did have bits of growth the last few years and really shows that when we lean into God it doesn’t fix us overnight but there is grace to be found, strength to be received, and a lift that ((I believe) can only come from our creator.
And thanks again for your condolences
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I am so sorry to hear about your Father in Law, Yvette may he R.I.P…I love the Victoria Beach image of the 3 flowers 🙂
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Hi Carol – thanks for the detailed comment and those flowers on the beach were actually part of a photo shoot I did – and a little eerie because they were tossed into the water by folks remembering someone – and now that photo made it into my remembrance post….
Wishing you a good day
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That is eerie “Yvette” …meant to be…Wishing you a good day x
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🎄💚🎄
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To me, I don’t find anything serene about a paint can, but the third image … ahhh … wonderful. More importantly, peace and comfort to you and your family. My the sadness of today turn into memories with smiles tomorrow.
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Hi Frank – quick note about the paint can. Originally this post was going to be for the theme of “bloggers choice” and I chose photos to show the many moods of life- and then right after I published – the new theme came out for LAPC and it was serene and I combined the post.
And it still works for me (but normally would not fit serve – lol) but the paint can was on a balcony at a place we stayed on a very special trip this year! When I would open the door for air or have morning coffee – the quietness was enjoyable and had some serenity there. So then on the last day I took about five photos of the rusty van and it still whispers a calmness to me and connects to that week.
Also / the rust and peeling label and the still feeling and had a calm and peaceful feeling (serene)
And cheers to military museums – I hope we maintain the many small ones because they matter
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Sorry to hear about your loss, as you write it was a ending with a closure and better for your father in loaw. He is now free of suffering which I believe is most important. Your tribute is lovely and dad’s will always be missed forever. Keep the lovely memories which will always be in your heart. My thoughts are with you.
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Thanks so much Ute. Today was a sobering day and not because it was the one week mark – it was more the reality that he is home is setting in – my hubs always talked with him Saturday night and Sunday (or would bring him home from church) and the reality of that never happening again was felt big time. And we know this part of the adjusting process.
Bereavement can vary and it did help that we were somewhat prepared but there is always adjusting to the new mode
Thanks
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I am sorry to read about your loss, Yvette. It is never easy to lose someone you love. The doors are very pretty and festive.
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Thank you very much Robbie
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That’s a really nice reflection on your FIL and his passing. I’m so glad you all, him especially, were able to find peace in the situation. God bless his dear soul. That comic with the dog is so sweet. I love it. 🙂
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Thanks for your condolences and that comic always makes me smile
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Super sweet comic. 🙂
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So sorry for your loss. Sending ❤️
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Thank you very much Teresa
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I was scrolling through the photos and wondering maybe there was a loss theme with it. Then, you wrote about your FIL passing. Beautiful photos and tribute. Sorry for your family’s loss.
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Hi! Well
I edited the opening on this post and not sure I liked combining the challenge with my FIL news – but it just sorta happened that way!
Anyhow – thanks for the condolences
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Writing is like that…takes you down different paths than what you planned. Nice weaving of the 2 nonetheless.
Stay well and hugs
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Thanks so much
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Sorry for your loss my friend
RIP
Take care
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really appetite it
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Lovely dedication post! Extending my sympathies to you and your family.
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thanks you VERY much
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awww, I’m so sorry to hear this news. It sounds like he had a full life and was ready to move on to a more peaceful place. Sending love and light your way – hope your hubby is alright also. Glad the memories of Red Rocks put a smile on your face :-).
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Hi Pam – you would probably enjoy some of my FIL’s collectibles because he has a ton of stuff from the Colorado Rockies opening day and other Colorado items. We had to smile at one of his items – it is this enormous photo of a bear in a Colorado stream – and has one of those 1980s frames – where there are frames within frames and mat on top of mats. hahah
anyhow, chatting about Red Rocks does bring smiles and thanks again for that
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Ohhh, very cool! You’ll have to do a post on his stuff!
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Hi, Yvette. I’m so sorry for your loss of your beloved father-in-law. Covid is devastating. My father-in-law had the same downturn after the vaccine. He was just so frail at that point. We think his system was overwhelmed. Maybe that happened with your father-in-law? My heart goes out to you and I hope you can find some comfort in his enduring love and your memories of him.
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Hi Patti – I am so sorry about your FIL too – and yes, my FIL was more frail after the vaccine (had his lungs drained for three days) and then the two boosters also set him back – but the vodka took its toll too – anyhow, we got to know so many caring people throughout the care of my FIL and we saw so much community. It was also nice to see my FIL grow in his faith during his last decade –
okay, thanks for the comment and wishing you a nice holiday
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Hi, Yvette. Thanks so much. Same for you, too.
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very sorry for your loss my friend. Please extend my condolences to your husband and your children. 75 is till young by today’s standards. But when health is failing, honestly, it ain’t that fun anymore… Hugs. The first Christmas without him will be difficult. Hang in there. Hugs.
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thanks so very much and you are so right – 75 is rather young by our standards- and he did take turns for the worse after the vaccine and all the boosters, but he also had a myriad of ailments – however he never had any dementia – his mind was sharp.
thanks again
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I’m sorry for your loss Yvette and it’s difficult so close to the holiday season, though admittedly this holiday season is somewhat subdued due to COVID. I know others who are immuno compromised and had reactions to the COVID shots and were thus reluctant to take the second, then booster vaccines. As you say, he is at peace now – that is the main thing. The cartoon matched the topic of the narrative and photos and put a positive spin on an otherwise somber post and gave us a little smile.
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thanks so much Linda
xx Yvette
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What an emotional time this must be for you. You are in my thoughts. ❤
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Thanks so much – it has been a roller coaster and we are running on fumes (if that makes sense) but also glad to have had some preparation
Thanks for the visit Maria and wiring you a Merry Christmas
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I can only imagine. I wish you peace and a Merry Christmas.
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Condolences. It’s a nice tribute you’ve presented. Be well.
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Thanks so much John
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I’m so sorry for your loss of your father in law, Yvette.
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Hi Amy, thanks for the condolences- and he is at peace and we believe in a better place –
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